Getting Your Ex Back

Getting Your Ex Back

Regardless of whether your ex broke up with you or if the decision to end your relationship was mutual,
you may be feeling that the break-up was a mistake. It isn’t unusual to regret breaking up with your ex;
nor is it unusual to want to get ex back. These feelings of wanting to rekindle a past relationship can
occur shortly after a break-up or they may spring up several weeks or months afterwards.

If you want to get your ex back, you are going to want to try some of the following tips. Because every break-up and
every relationship is different, some of these may not apply to your situation; however, be sure to look all of the tips
over thoroughly. If you do not approach the idea of reuniting with your ex cautiously and with care, you may blow your
chances of getting them back.

Try these tips as you work toward getting your ex back:

• Admit your fault in the break-up, as well as anything you did wrong during the relationship. Although even the most heartfelt
apology is unlikely to get your ex to run back into your arms, it is a good first step.

• Be kind whenever you see them. Speak nicely, even though you may be hurting and angry—you need to rise above those feelings and
understand their needs at the moment. This will show them that you still care about them.

• Be an excellent listener whenever they talk to you. Let them express themselfs and do not interrupt. Unless they ask for your opinion,
do not tell them what they should do or how they should act.

• Think about what you did during the relationship that may have helped to lead up to the break-up. Work on changing these habits.
For example, if you determine that your ex was likely troubled by your lack of career goals, perhaps you can visit a career counselor
and find a job path in which you are interested. Your ex will see that you are working on changing the habits they disliked–and this
will make you attractive to them.

Just as there are suggestions of what you should try, there are also some things you should definitely not do as you try to get
your ex back. Avoid doing any of these:

• Do not appear needy or emotionally desperate when you see or speak with your ex. This is not attractive at all.

• Do not follow the cues you see in the movies–sending flowers and serenading them at their workplace are sure to annoy them,
not attract them.

• Do not go out with others if you want to get your ex back. This sends the message that you do not miss your ex and that you are
over the past relationship. And even if you are careful, your ex will find out that you have seen others.

By following these tips, you should be able to work towards getting your ex back.

Good luck!

Jen