survive after a break up
Tough this: Can we survive this break?
my bf and I dated (and were committed) over a period of 5 years. he broke up w / b I June / CI was emotionally distant, selfish at times, etc., the more he found a diary I wrote about another guy (my boss). We have also been long distance. after breaking up, I moved to where he lived, got an apartment, etc., said I would work on being a better partner. I gave him space. not call or his family (I'm very close to them). In August, he finally started calling, Sept / Oct, we went a few times, and now In November, we talk every day and he asked me to spend Thanksgiving with his family (although he does not ask me the day before), he helped me to buy a new car, etc., but within six months (three of which we have been hanging on) there is no privacy. he will not hold my hand, kissing, nothing. He says he wants to take this slow and, as soon as we are physically, it will bring us back together 100%. I was wondering if it is why so long? Should I keep going? 4 how long?
If you're still in love with him then hang in but if we do not move on
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To Survive $8.47 If To Survive is any indication, Joan Wasser’s life after Real Life is calmer, but no less thoughtful, than it was before her beautifully stormy debut album. Real Life was a major statement, filled with a lifetime’s worth of catharsis. To Survive doesn’t try for that scope — as the title suggests, these songs are about day to day concerns that are no less vital: aloneness, togetherness, love, hope, and righteous anger. However, Joan as Police Woman’s “beauty is the new punk rock” aesthetic is used just as powerfully here, with the same kind of delicate bravery and strong vulnerability. Wasser can still set a scene like few others: “Honor Wishes” drops listeners into a sultry heart to heart, and the way she draws out “Would you love me? Would you trust me?” as she sings is as wounded as it is seductive, turning the song into a dance of understanding between two people in the middle of the night. A pair of songs make up To Survive’s heart: “To Be Loved” is hopeful but bittersweet, celebrating new love and recognizing what it took to get to it with soulful brass and realizations like “when you found me I could not be loved, but then I found me and I’m happy to be loved.” “To Be Lonely” is bittersweet but hopeful, wishing for lasting love with hypnotic, incantation-like simplicity and yearning pianos. These mirror image songs reveal the yin-yang chase of love and loneliness so well and so intimately that everything else on To Survive could be mediocre and it’d still be well worth hearing, but the rest of the album is nearly as strong. The easy, elegant sensuality that peeked out on Real Life from time to time is in full flower here, playfully on “Holiday” and more insistently on “Hard White Wall,” where soft harmonies and keyboards contrast with driven rhythm guitars. Rebirth and gratitude are also major themes on To Survive, and though it’s often more challenging to write about happiness in a meaningful way, Wasser finds unique ways to channel those feelings on the luminous tribute “Start of My Heart.” Sonically speaking, To Survive is softer and cleaner than Real Life, in keeping with its more serene outlook. This works especially well on “Magpies’” sparkling melody, but the polished production distances some of the album’s more intense moments, as on the politically charged “Furious,” where Wasser’s outrage and impatience feel a bit removed. To Survive is most affecting with songs like “To Survive,” when it feels like you’re sitting next to her on her piano bench. While Real Life was so fully realized that it seemed to have a life of its own, To Survive feels more like songs written by somebody than something that materialized because it had to. On those terms, the album is very, very good, and when it closes with fireworks on “To America,” it might not be a completely happy ending, but it shows that in order to survive real life, it’s necessary to embrace the uplifting parts of it as well as the desperate ones. ~ Heather Phares, Rovi Perfo |
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Break Up $21.13 Pete Yorn recorded Break Up in 2006 on the heels of one, but it sat on the shelf until 2009, appearing just a matter of months after his Back & Fourth, and a year after his duet partner, Scarlett Johansson, released a Tom Waits covers album. The album tha |
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Survive $14.59 One of the most eagerly awaited reissues of the CD age, I Survive was former teen idol-turned-actor Adam Faith’s return to the recording studio after almost a decade’s absence — a period that saw him not only establish his thespian credentials, but also |
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Break Up Break Down $8.47 Former Oblivians and Compulsive Gamblers frontman Greg Cartwright cools his boiling garage leanings to a simmer on the Memphis musician’s debut with the Reigning Sound. It’s all about the material on Break Up Break Down, and there are only scattered references to the primal blues-rock of Cartwright’s notable ’90s projects. Heart-tugging vocals and songwriting are the central components that this country-folk collection revolves around. Highlights like the waltz-time lament “Goodbye” have just what it takes to grip the inner Hank Williams in every garage rocker, without tripping any irony-minded alerts that equate anything emotional with overt sentimentality. Perhaps this delicate country-rock balancing act is what impressed the Hives enough to take the Reigning Sound out on tour, or perhaps the decision was tribute to Cartwright’s overlooked punk/gospel work with Oblivians. Such thoughts won’t concern fans of traditional American music after they’ve confronted the authenticity and the sweetness of Break Up Break Down. ~ Vincent Jeffries, Rovi Performers: Alex Greene – Vocals (Background), Organ; Brian Venable – Mandolin; Jeremy Scott – Vocals (Background), Guitar (Bass); Greg Cartwright – Vocals, Guitar; Greg Roberson – Drums; John Whittemore – Guitar (Steel) |
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Break It Up $9.58 The title of Jemina Pearl’s first post-Be Your Own Pet album, Break It Up, could apply to a fight or a band — and in Pearl’s case, it’s a little of both. Be Your Own Pet’s music and attitude (especially on-stage) were so riotous that it was clear they wouldn’t last long. The band folded not too long after the release of its second album, Get Awkward, which had one of its best songs, “Becky,” cut from the official release because its nasty update of girl group pop was deemed too violent by the record label. It’s no coincidence that some of that song’s mix of sugar and spite resurfaces on Break It Up, since Pearl wrote the track with Be Your Own Pet drummer John Eatherly and he remains her chief collaborator here. The pair worked with producer John Agnello on these songs, and even though they’re far more polished and sedate than Be Your Own Pet were at their tamest, Pearl and Eatherly still specialize in twisted pop with a mean streak. This time, however, they draw from influences like Blondie and the Go-Go’s and collaborators who include David Sitek, Redd Kross’ Steve McDonald, that dog.’s Anna Waronker, and Thurston Moore (who lends some of his effortless cool to “D Is for Danger”‘s backing vocals). It’s Iggy Pop, however, who contributes Break It Up’s standout “I Hate People,” a love song for misanthropes that updates punk’s penchant for subverting ’50s and early-’60s pop and rock. Pearl isn’t a particularly nuanced singer, but she still gets to explore sounds and moods that wouldn’t have been possible with Be Your Own Pet’s brand of chaos. Though there are a few songs (“Looking for Trouble,” “So Sick”) that don’t stray far from Eatherly and Pearl’s previous band, she discovers new shades of being a bad — or more accurately, independent — girl with tracks like “Ecstatic Appeal,” an unabashedly girly song about not needing any old guy because she’s a Gemini and therefore never lonely, and the brooding death wish pop of “Retrograde.” Still, Break It Up’s highlights are the songs that feel the most autobiographical. “Nashville Shores” sums up her time in that city with the one-two lyrical punch “Boys are bad! Beer is cheap!” and she waves “goodbye with a middle finger” on the fiery “Band on the Run.” Pearl and Eatherly don’t escape their past entirely on Break It Up, but they’re well on their way to waving goodbye to it. ~ Heather Phares, Rovi Performers: Dave Sitek – Loops, Percussion; Derek Stanton – Guitar; Iggy Pop – Vocals; James Pearl – Vocals; Jemina Pearl – Vocals; Thurston Mo |
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Break-Up - $34.99 A once-loving Chicago couple whose happily-ever-after quickly turned into a never-again finds their crumbling romance complicated when both parties refuse to move out of the pair’s recently purchased condo. The Break-Up is a romantic comedy that starts where all the others end. The future once looked promising for thirtysomething couple Brooke (Jennifer Aniston) and Gary (Vince Vaughn), but lately it seems like a series of increasingly petty and intolerable squabbles have snuffed any semblance of romance in their relationship. Their confrontation endlessly fueled by mean-spirited suggestions of revenge tactics from friends and family and their stubborn refusal to budge resulting in an excruciating stalemate, Brooke and Gary ultimately decide to spitefully stick it out as hostile roommates until the weaker party eventually admits defeat. As the competition to drive one another out grows increasingly intense and outrageous, however, Brooke eventually comes to the realization that she’s not fighting for possession of the condominium as much as she is fighting to salvage her relationship with the man she once viewed as the love of her life. ~ Jason Buchanan, Rovi |
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Break Up Widescreen $7.2 Rated: PG13Synopsis: Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Aniston star in the charming and unpredictable comedy The Break-Up. After two years together, Gary and Brooke’s relationship seems to have taken a comical wrong turn on the way to happily ever after. Now the break-up is on, the lines have been drawn, and their honest feelings for each other are coming out. Get ready for an all-out war of the exes in this fun date movie that’s hilarious and heartfelt. |
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